Comments on: Eye Contact and Blushing http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/ Sat, 23 Jan 2010 02:25:06 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: SFgambit http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-32004 SFgambit Sat, 23 Jan 2010 02:25:06 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-32004 Thank you for this wonderful pose. I'm usually afraid of eye contact with people i dont know. Im afraid that they are judging me secretly, so I avoid it. Usually I can maintain good eye contact with closer friends, but sometimes I forget. Its hard because I find it intense to lock eyes with the girls that show interest in me, but after reading this post, I feel much better. Thank you for this wonderful pose. I'm usually afraid of eye contact with people i dont know. Im afraid that they are judging me secretly, so I avoid it. Usually I can maintain good eye contact with closer friends, but sometimes I forget. Its hard because I find it intense to lock eyes with the girls that show interest in me, but after reading this post, I feel much better.

]]> By: Leslie http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-30868 Leslie Wed, 11 Nov 2009 04:08:22 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-30868 Thank you for taking the time to write your thoughts and experience(s). I too have struggled with eye contact in my younger years as well as the last several years. I endured abuse as a child and I believe that it manifested itself as low self-esteem and subsequently through my eye contact. I dealt with the abuse and worked at growing my self-esteem and gained back the comfort of eye contact. It turned out I didn't fully deal with the past because I ended up marrying a controlling man in my first marriage. I joined the military and had a drill sergeant in basic training that threatened the uniform code of military justice on us if we made eye contact with him. Being able to look my leader in the eye, especially being that we were on the same team meant a lot to me and for two months, breaking that humanistic connection really caused a scar. It didn't help that back home, a man entrusted with my life's work, savings, and relationships was beginning to intensly manipulate me to feed his growing addiction to pornography and alcohol (no longer married to him now) and the mail I looked forward to so despirately from him only turned out to be obscene pictures and notes saying that he couldn't go on without me. I felt violated on a daily basis because of that struggling soul. I've been struggling with eye contact ever since (six years ago). I find myself overcompensating and staring people in the eyes much too intensly, deeply, or too long and not realizing it until I see the person backing away, looking away while slowing their speech, or loosing track of what they were talking about. I've been overcoming post traumatic stress from that previous marriage and I believe that my anxiety shows through and at times I have felt too that people could see all the abuse I experienced just by looking at my eyes or my body language. While on the road to recovery, I have found your entry and the comments to be very helpful. Thanks. I am going to think more with my eyes and I know its true because I remember it, that when you love yourself, you really arent' afraid of anyone. Thank you for taking the time to write your thoughts and experience(s). I too have struggled with eye contact in my younger years as well as the last several years. I endured abuse as a child and I believe that it manifested itself as low self-esteem and subsequently through my eye contact. I dealt with the abuse and worked at growing my self-esteem and gained back the comfort of eye contact. It turned out I didn't fully deal with the past because I ended up marrying a controlling man in my first marriage. I joined the military and had a drill sergeant in basic training that threatened the uniform code of military justice on us if we made eye contact with him. Being able to look my leader in the eye, especially being that we were on the same team meant a lot to me and for two months, breaking that humanistic connection really caused a scar. It didn't help that back home, a man entrusted with my life's work, savings, and relationships was beginning to intensly manipulate me to feed his growing addiction to pornography and alcohol (no longer married to him now) and the mail I looked forward to so despirately from him only turned out to be obscene pictures and notes saying that he couldn't go on without me. I felt violated on a daily basis because of that struggling soul. I've been struggling with eye contact ever since (six years ago). I find myself overcompensating and staring people in the eyes much too intensly, deeply, or too long and not realizing it until I see the person backing away, looking away while slowing their speech, or loosing track of what they were talking about. I've been overcoming post traumatic stress from that previous marriage and I believe that my anxiety shows through and at times I have felt too that people could see all the abuse I experienced just by looking at my eyes or my body language. While on the road to recovery, I have found your entry and the comments to be very helpful. Thanks. I am going to think more with my eyes and I know its true because I remember it, that when you love yourself, you really arent' afraid of anyone.

]]> By: emmy http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-29441 emmy Fri, 11 Sep 2009 06:59:44 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-29441 it's better knowing that someone else's having the same problem as mine. maybe I can gain more confidence from this ^_^ It's weird I don't remember having this problem when I was younger. I think it started when I begin to lose confidence in front of people. I've been practising but everytime I look into ppl's eyes I just forget what I was gonna say, and then I make awkward silence which is the most uncomfortable thing. it's better knowing that someone else's having the same problem as mine. maybe I can gain more confidence from this ^_^
It's weird I don't remember having this problem when I was younger. I think it started when I begin to lose confidence in front of people. I've been practising but everytime I look into ppl's eyes I just forget what I was gonna say, and then I make awkward silence which is the most uncomfortable thing.

]]> By: hptai http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-29024 hptai Sun, 16 Aug 2009 14:46:56 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-29024 it is really a good experience.i always feel shy while standing infront of many people(especial when i recite my lessons).i may be feel better when i display my topic in class tomorrow.thank you very much. ;-) it is really a good experience.i always feel shy while standing infront of many people(especial when i recite my lessons).i may be feel better when i display my topic in class tomorrow.thank you very much. ;-)

]]> By: cursed life http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-28729 cursed life Fri, 31 Jul 2009 17:57:10 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-28729 wel the problems that this matter creates are many...bt i m dissapointed as u guys jus hav difficulties only in maintaining an eye contact...i hav an additional drawback of being unable to walk,talk,drive or even eat if anyone,even my good friends have their presence around me...how wud i live my life...? wel the problems that this matter creates are many…bt i m dissapointed as u guys jus hav difficulties only in maintaining an eye contact…i hav an additional drawback of being unable to walk,talk,drive or even eat if anyone,even my good friends have their presence around me…how wud i live my life…?

]]> By: lol http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-28233 lol Sat, 11 Jul 2009 17:11:53 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-28233 # randomblah says: April 12th, 2009 at 2:09 am I still have this problem, I can't look at anyone for more than 3 sec. without having to break away…help, that can sometimes mean tht yu are consous (however yu spell it) or have something to hide or maybe yu just needmore confidence # randomblah says:
April 12th, 2009 at 2:09 am

I still have this problem, I can't look at anyone for more than 3 sec. without having to break away…help,

that can sometimes mean tht yu are consous (however yu spell it)
or have something to hide
or maybe yu just needmore confidence

]]> By: randomblah http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-25171 randomblah Sun, 12 Apr 2009 10:09:54 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-25171 I still have this problem, I can't look at anyone for more than 3 sec. without having to break away...help I still have this problem, I can't look at anyone for more than 3 sec. without having to break away…help

]]> By: nekazowa http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-24865 nekazowa Mon, 30 Mar 2009 17:50:59 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-24865 good to know theres someone else like me out there :oops: i mean, i dont like ey contact with most people, but only around some boys if i keep eye contact for too long my face will burn up, lol, and its really embarrasing good to know theres someone else like me out there :oops:
i mean, i dont like ey contact with most people, but only around some boys if i keep eye contact for too long my face will burn up, lol, and its really embarrasing

]]> By: redmagic http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-24646 redmagic Fri, 16 Jan 2009 11:43:04 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-24646 :lol: wow u guys r rockkkk :razz: nice to know that somebodies are like me. blushing girl :oops: :lol: wow u guys r rockkkk :razz:
nice to know that somebodies are like me. blushing girl :oops:

]]> By: Nazmul http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/comment-page-1/#comment-24607 Nazmul Fri, 09 Jan 2009 05:55:57 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-24607 Hi, i also feared eye contact once. During the time of lectures i felt so embarassed to make eye contact with the lecturers.. haha.. but after knowing its importance and practising a lot iv mastered in eye contact.. now i can convey my desired message through my eyes at the time of conversation without speaking a word. i was surprised to see the change in myself. It has been possible due to my high self esteem. if u love urself, u dont fear any1. Hi, i also feared eye contact once. During the time of lectures i felt so embarassed to make eye contact with the lecturers.. haha..
but after knowing its importance and practising a lot iv mastered in eye contact.. now i can convey my desired message through my eyes at the time of conversation without speaking a word.
i was surprised to see the change in myself.
It has been possible due to my high self esteem. if u love urself, u dont fear any1.

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