Comments on: Eye Contact and Blushing http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/ Sat, 22 Nov 2008 01:36:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5 By: Heather http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-21530 Heather Sat, 26 Apr 2008 00:08:27 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-21530 I enjoyed your article. Thanks for sharing your experiences. I used to make strong eye contact with boys that I was trying to attract. I didn't realize that they would interpret it as a sexual come-on. I was too young to care about sex and have never really had a very strong interest in it. But I had more than one boy tell me that I had "bedroom eyes" or, worse, "f**k me eyes". After those comments, and after going through many violent abuses in my earlier years, I have a great deal of trouble maintaining eye contact with anyone. It's almost as if I believe they can feel my shame and see the abuse I've gone through. I know that at a soul level, they probably can. It's funny, I don't have this problem with everyone. I'm not sure what the difference is in the people that I can look at and those that I cannot. Actually, now that I think of it, I believe it may be that I can make eye contact with women, but not men, because I believe that men will perceive it as sexual interest. This includes my husband of five years, believe it or not! People say I have pretty eyes. I think men don't realize that my eyes look like this all the time, not just when I'm looking at them! lol. Thanks for helping me figure it out! I enjoyed your article. Thanks for sharing your experiences.

I used to make strong eye contact with boys that I was trying to attract. I didn't realize that they would interpret it as a sexual come-on. I was too young to care about *** and have never really had a very strong interest in it. But I had more than one boy tell me that I had "bedroom eyes" or, worse, "f**k me eyes". After those comments, and after going through many violent abuses in my earlier years, I have a great deal of trouble maintaining eye contact with anyone. It's almost as if I believe they can feel my shame and see the abuse I've gone through. I know that at a soul level, they probably can. It's funny, I don't have this problem with everyone. I'm not sure what the difference is in the people that I can look at and those that I cannot. Actually, now that I think of it, I believe it may be that I can make eye contact with women, but not men, because I believe that men will perceive it as sexual interest. This includes my husband of five years, believe it or not! People say I have pretty eyes. I think men don't realize that my eyes look like this all the time, not just when I'm looking at them! lol. Thanks for helping me figure it out!

]]> By: Amy http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13903 Amy Tue, 07 Aug 2007 05:22:43 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13903 Yeah, I was the same way. I never looked people in the eyes, but I guess I made a subconscious effort to change that and it comes naturally to me now. But I still blush like crazy. And it's horrible isn't it? I hate that feeling. Cold water on your cheeks helps, if you have the opportunity. I still blush at work sometimes though when I'm talking to unfamiliar people. I wonder why that is... :) Glad I'm not the only one though. Yeah, I was the same way. I never looked people in the eyes, but I guess I made a subconscious effort to change that and it comes naturally to me now. But I still blush like crazy. And it's horrible isn't it? I hate that feeling. Cold water on your cheeks helps, if you have the opportunity. I still blush at work sometimes though when I'm talking to unfamiliar people. I wonder why that is… :) Glad I'm not the only one though.

]]> By: Chiem http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13901 Chiem Tue, 07 Aug 2007 04:41:04 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13901 I used to be embarassed with eye contact too. If someone make eye contact with me I just turn away. But now it's different since I know it's very important in communicating with the world. And I think hardcore eye contact may make the person you are talking to think that you have a special feeling for him :smile: . I used to be embarassed with eye contact too. If someone make eye contact with me I just turn away. But now it's different since I know it's very important in communicating with the world. And I think hardcore eye contact may make the person you are talking to think that you have a special feeling for him :smile: .

]]> By: Jools http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13888 Jools Mon, 06 Aug 2007 13:41:28 +0000 http://fadedout.com/blog/2007/08/05/eye-contact-and-blushing/#comment-13888 I like to stare at my professors while they're giving lectures, especially when it's a boring class. It's something to do, heh ^^ I like to stare at my professors while they're giving lectures, especially when it's a boring class. It's something to do, heh ^^

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