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I know some people have become really wary about FaceBook’s privacy issues. Personally, I believe if you are NOT posting drunken pictures of yourself and NOT giving out your address to everyone, you don’t have too much to worry about. This tutorial focuses more on privacy control with the people you add as “friends” on FaceBook.

Sometimes people blindly add anyone as their “friend” even if they don’t know the person too well or even at all. You may want to be careful about this because as your “friend” they will be able to see almost everything on your FaceBook, including pictures, status updates, wall posts to friends, and other personal information. It’s been a trend recently for students to add their past teachers and some family members. These are also people you may want to be careful about. Although you could easily solve this problem by just being careful and censored on the Internet in general, there is another option.

We can turn to the “Limited Profile” feature of FaceBook. This basically lets you control who sees what from you. You can put certain people on the Limited Profile list and prevent them from seeing specific things from you, or you can also limit what one particular person sees. FaceBook has changed their layout more than enough times and even though I’ve been using it for a few years, I still had trouble finding the option again, so I decided to write a little tutorial on this. Hopefully this tutorial will stay relevant for more than two weeks.

Step 1: First, let’s set up the Limited Profile list, shall we? In the upper-right hand corner click Account and then select Edit Friends.

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Step 2: You will see a sidebar on the left. Select Friends under Lists.

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Step 3: At the top of the page next to the search bar, you’ll see a couple of buttons. Using these, you can create a new list, edit a list, or delete a list. If you don’t have one already, create a “Limited Profile” list.

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Step 4: Now you can edit the list and add any friends to the list.

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Step 5: So now we have the Limited Profile list established. Next we want to control what people on this list will see from you. In the upper-right hand corner of your FaceBook page, click Account and then click Privacy Settings.

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Step 6: Click on Customize settings.

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Step 7: Now you will see a whole list of things, such as “Things I share,” “Things others share,” and “Contact information.” Next to each feature you will have the option to customize what people will see. You have the option of the typical “Everyone,” “Friends and Networks,” “Friends of Friends,” and “Friends Only,” but you can also pick “Custom” which is where you can have more control. So click “Custom” and a small window will pop up.

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Step 8: At the bottom of the window you can choose to hide the feature from anyone you want. It can be a specific person or the “Limited Profile” list, which will include all of the people you added to this list earlier.

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Step 9: And finally, how do we put people on the “Limited Profile” list when you first add them as your friend? When you add a friend or accept a friend request, you can put the person on the Limited Profile list immediately. It is very simple and you do not need to go through the earlier steps again. All you have to do is click “Add to List” and then pick “Limited Profile.”

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There you go! Now you will have more control over what people see on your profile and what information you send out.

Also, when you are at the “Customize settings” page, you will notice a “Preview My Profile” button at the top right corner. You can click this and type in the name of one of your friends to see exactly how they will see your profile.

Remember, even with the Limited Profile trick, it’s probably best not to post anything up that would ruin your life if the wrong person saw it.

Can’t sleep. Thoughts in form of a letter.

Dear J, or as I used to lovingly call you, Benny,
Would you believe that your first girlfriend apparently still cries over you, even though it’s been five years since the first time you both met?

I know. It’s hard for me to believe, too.

I don’t remember when was the last time I cried over you. It’s been a long time now.

I don’t even know what triggered my thoughts about you. I was about to fall asleep, until I thought about you for some reason. And then cried. And then I tried to trace every single memory of us, to squeeze out every last tear. I don’t know why I do it. Is it because I want to forget? Is it because I don’t want to forget?

You may be doing terrific right now, or terrible, I wouldn’t know (and honestly I don’t really care), but I think you’re pretty lucky about one thing at least: you have someone who cared about you enough to be thinking/crying about you despite the long gap in time of separation and no contact. Ever think about that? Probably not.

My favorite memories: Swimming day in P.E. when I’d sit at the edge of the pool and you’d swim over asking me why I didn’t go in, and I replied, “It’s cold.” Days in P.E. when I’d be walking to the locker room and you’d yell my name to say hi but I wouldn’t hear you, so you’d yell louder until I heard you and when I did, I’d smile. Cold mornings when you’d keep me warm and attempt to tickle me. Walking from the bungalows (Mrs. Turner’s class?) and you shyly asked, “Will you go out with me?” One day after school when you insisted that your mom give me a ride home and when I finally met her I thought she was really nice (I wonder if she ever wondered what became of me after we broke up). Choir when friends would smirk and hint and tell me you had a good expression while singing because you must have been thinking about someone special. That one time after school when I had kissed you on the cheek for the first time and you kissed my forehead in return and soon after, James was talking to us about something but then we admitted that we didn’t hear a word James had said. As time passes by I probably remember less and less, but I easily remember how much I had loved you back then. I can easily remember the desperation I had the days following our end. Perhaps in fifteen years even more will deteriorate, in fact that is inevitable, but I believe I will still remember how much I had loved you and how bad I had felt having lost us.

I remember that day in an AP review session on a weekend, you said, “Wow, Tiffany’s wearing shorts.” And that’s when I subconsciously knew I lost you, deep down. I could have been wrong, but it happened anyway, didn’t it? Either I had excellent foreseeability, or it is just pure, sad irony that it happened anyway.

I remember talking to Jazmin one time and she told me you said you won’t get over me for a long time, probably years. That’s lolicious because I’m pretty sure you got over me fast. Once I was flipping through a friend’s MySpace pictures, and I can still remember you commenting on how hot this (not even hot) girl was. It was like a stab to the heart. Years to get over me? What a load of crap. Do you know how hard it was to be lab partners with (my friend and) your near-future girlfriend and see you two across the lab table flirting two feet away from my face? Probably not, and you probably didn’t care, either. Heartless.

Well, it’s all the past. But of course, who I am today is composed of past and present. Therefore, when you say it’s “all in the past” it really isn’t. It’s still here, being carried into the present to make my memories and make me who I am. When someone tells you to “move on,” you know you will move on. You will keep walking, keep moving, keep breathing, keep living, keep finding new happiness and new sadness, keep having new experiences, but memories will always continue to stay dormant in your mind.